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5 Ways To Include Your Partner With Wedding Planning

A problem shared is a problem halfed!

Oh now this one might not sit with everyone, if your like me and a control freak you’ll want to have your finger in every pie yourself.

But planning a wedding can turn into a full-time job if you’re not careful.

So, why not delegate a few tasks and make it a team effort? And apart from sharing the load it will help your partner feel involved in all the planning to,

And what are winter evenings for if not doing flicking through social media at wedding vendors.

So lets have a look this week at some of the things you could delegate to your partner or even one of your wedding party, although this one I’d keep in house.

Team Work Makes Dream Work

The Budget

First up is budget tracking! I’d hate this bit myself so would be happy to pass that over they can track whilst I spend.

Let them crunch the numbers while you build your pinterest wedding board, filled with flower walls and extravagant cake designs.

Think of all that time you’d have to do that if they were handling the budget.

They’re job is to make sure you don’t accidently spend the honeymoon money on a six foot chocolate fountain, (although I might have to argue my case on that one)

And you need to get in front of that mirror and practice the “I had no idea it would cost that much face” for the integrations when you over spend on flowers.

Cheif Food Taster

Now this delicious task is everyone’s favourite, including mine, choosing the menu for your big day or even the cake tasting. Who’s the biggest foodie you or them? I think we’d have a fight over this one in my house.

Let your partner deal with the venue on choosing your menu, and organising some cake tasting samples from the cake vendor, I wouldn’t give them the last say, (see that’s the control freak in me again) but I wouldn’t want to be giving my guests haggis balls for their starter 😊

But they could get the menu options from the venue and get in touch with the cake vendors for prices and samples for you to taste one afternoon, a wee afternoon tea might be in order for the cake tasting though.

The Tunes

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Music for your wedding is one of those things that takes some serious thought. Do you go with a disco, a live band, or maybe a classy quartet? Or are you thinking of pulling out all the stops and having all three at different points during the day?

I know how tricky it is for my couples to just pick the three key pieces for the ceremony, so I can only imagine how tough it is to decide on the rest!

Does your partner claim they’ve got better taste in music than you? Well, here’s their chance to prove it! 🎶

Put them in charge of sourcing bands and DJs — and if they’re local, why not make a few date nights out of it? Let them track down where they’re playing so you can check them out live. Plus, they’ll be responsible for creating playlists, picking those special songs like the ceremony music or even the first dance. (I wouldn’t mind a surprise for my first dance! 😄)

But… have a little sneak peek at those playlists before the big day, just to make sure there isn’t an unexpected “Eye of the Tiger” moment. Unless that’s your jam, of course! 🐅

Transport

One of the biggest challenges of any wedding day is figuring out how to get all your guests to and from the venue — unless you’re at an all-inclusive spot where most of the crew can just roll into bed after the party. But for everyone else, someone has to take charge of the transportation logistics. 🚗

So why not hand your partner the official title of Transport Manager? Let them dive into the world of taxis, buses, and maybe even a vintage car for a stylish exit. Their mission: to find the best local options, get the quotes, and make sure the budget doesn’t get left in the dust.

Oh, and while they’re at it, remind them to include your transport — whether it’s to the ceremony or a sweet ride home after the night is over. Because trust me, you don’t want to be stranded at your own wedding! 😅

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Guest List

Managing a wedding guest list is like herding cats — some guests RSVP right away, while others think they have until the big day to make up their minds. 🙄 That’s where your partner steps in as the Guest List Manager.

Get them to take charge of handling the RSVPs. Set up a shared sheet (you know, for that whole “control” thing) and let them log all the responses.

As the big day approaches, make sure they’re on top of chasing down any missing guests with polite follow-ups, gentle nudges, and perhaps a touch of social media sleuthing if necessary.

Just keep an eye out to ensure they don’t go rogue and invite their long-lost cousin from 1998. After all, you don’t want a surprise guest list that’s longer than the guest list itself! 😅

Now, I know what you’re thinking “Delegate?

“But I’m the master of planning they won’t do it as well as me”.

Trust me, I know how you feel.

Letting go of even the smallest task can feel like giving away your crown.

But sharing the load means less stress for you and more involvement from your partner, which means you can both enjoy the lead-up to the big day a little more.

Plus, who wouldn’t want to relax while someone else manages the budget or hunts down cake samples?

So go ahead, loosen the reins just a bit.

After all, what’s the worst thing that could happen? (Okay, maybe don’t answer that. 😄)